1 Samuel 24:8, 9 – David also arose afterward, went out of the cave, and called out to Saul saying, “My lord the king!”And when Saul looked behind him, David stooped with his face to the earth and bowed down. (Verse 9) And David said to Saul, “Why do you listen to the words of men who say, ‘Indeed David seeks your harm’?”
Most Christians think it best to just walk away without saying anything in their own defense. But, if you do the person won’t know the truth. This is what David did. He wanted Saul to know he hadn’t done anything wrong. If you never confront anything, then nothing ever gets settled. I’m not talking about confronting someone who has made up his or her mind not to listen to you or is violently angry. Keeping our mouths shut all the time is not being humble, nor does it make us a martyr. But let’s look how David does it.
1 Samuel 24:10, 11 – “Look, this day your eyes have seen that the Lord delivered you today into my hand in the cave, and someone urged me to kill you. But my eye spared you, and I said, “I will not stretch out my hand against my lord, for he is the Lord’s anointed.” (Verse 11) “Moreover, my father see! For in that I cut off the corner of your robe, and did not kill you, know and see that there is neither evil nor rebellion in my hand, and I have not sinned against you. Yet you hunt my life to take it.” (Verse 12) May the Lord judge between you and me and may the Lord avenge me on you: but my hand shall not be against you.
This is not going to work in every situation where someone is trying to do harm to you. Unless you have deep ties to that person, more times than not, it won’t work. Sometimes what’s best for your own safety and well-being is to walk away and stay far from that person.
However, in dealing with Saul, look what happens.
1 Samuel 24:16-19 – So it was when David had finished speaking these words to Saul, that Saul said, “Is this your voice my son David?” And Saul lifted up his voice and wept.
Then Saul goes on to tell David he is more righteous than he is and may the Lord reward David with good for letting Saul live.
It is our responsibility to tell people the truth, but there is no guarantee it will make that person change, But, in this case, Saul melted before David because David spoke truth.
Then in verses 20 and 22, Saul tells David, now he knows that he will be king over all Israel. Saul had one promise that he wanted David to make, not to cut off his descendants after he was gone and not to destroy his name. David swore he would not, and then David and his men left.
We are not going to get through this life without being mistreated by someone at one time or another. When people make their decisions by their emotions, they respond in the treatment of others, like Saul. Call it what it is –sin.
Our response to mistreatment does not come naturally. Our first response is usually to strike back. However, if you treat people the way you want to be treated, at least you will have done what’s right.
When others are convincing you to fight or get revenge-refuse. When we hold resentment and become bitter against another, we place ourselves in bondage. We can make ourselves sick physically. The desire to get even with someone is probably the greatest temptation we will face, repeatedly. It doesn’t matter what it is, we need to forgive, for us. The more you focus and talk about what was done, the harder it will be to “let it go.”
I’m not talking about the military or national defense to protect this great country. I’m talking about an individual who does you harm and it makes you angry. We can’t do this by ourselves. We need Christ’s help, but you need to ask. It may take a while, but it’s for the best.
Bitterness can eat you up inside. God says, leave all that to Him (Romans 12:18-21). We will never regret forgiving someone who doesn’t deserve it!