1 Samuel 25:32 – Then David said to Abigail: “Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me!”
Perhaps this is another reason God had chosen David – he had a teachable spirit. His anger was turned aside immediately by what Abigail had said. Not only that but David and his men were hungry and when they saw what all she had brought, it would have been foolish to disregard it. David models humility here. May God forever keep us flexible and teachable.
1 Samuel 25:33-35: David thanks her for her advice and keeping him from killing every male that was under Nabal. Mission accomplished. David tells her that he respects her for her action and to go home in peace. And so she does, but when she arrives…
1 Samuel 25:36, 37 – Then Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was, holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king. And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunk; therefore she said nothing, little or much, until morning light. (Verse 37) So it was, in the morning, when the wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became like a stone. (Verse 38) Then it happened, after about ten days that the Lord struck Nabal, and he died.
Hebrews 3:8 tell us: “Do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion,… When you continually harden your heart to the things of God, it will become as hard as a stone, as Nabal’s did.
One of two things happened: Either he was so terrified that 401 men could have killed him and all his servants, or he was so mad that Abigail had intervened that he had a massive “Stroke!” It could have been a combination of both, but the Bible says, “God struck him.”
Have you ever been in a place and later find out something really bad had happened that you were totally unaware of? I have, and there is no explanation of how it but it didn’t touch me, except by the Hand of God.
Yes, David had slipped up and let his anger get the better of him, but Nabal was given a chance to do what was right. Abigail interceded for them both!
Then in verse 39, David realizes that God sent Abigail to keep him from committing murder. He then sent a marriage proposal to Abigail, which she accepts.
The Bible teaches us to act wisely when conflicts come. We aren’t to jump to conclusions until hearing both sides. And we are not supposed to make hasty decisions from the emotion or anger. If we pray for wisdom first, then we will make a wise decision. By me saying this, does it mean that I always make my decisions from wisdom? No, however, I’m working on it.
Another thing I learned from David’s experience: Take each conflict separately. The battle you may have won yesterday does not give us credit today to act like a jerk in another situation.
We need to learn from David also to “put the brakes on,” at times. We have to learn self-control. We can’t make a hasty decision because of panic or anger. David evidently learned this lesson well because he writes in Psalm 40, “I waited patiently for the Lord; and He inclined to me, and heard my cry. He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay; and He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm