All families can have trouble, whether rich or poor. It can come either from the outside or within.
A trouble that comes through the disaster of a flood or a house burning down can be divesting, but it usually makes a family grow closer.
However, when trouble comes from within a family that trouble can be harder to handle. Trouble from within in the form of pressure, tension between husband and wife, abuse, neglect, unforgiveness, bitterness, and hatred, can make the home a war zone.
Paul writes in the book of Galatians to the church in Galatia – Galatians 6:7, 8 – Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. (Verse 8) For he who sows to the flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the spirit will of the spirit reap everlasting life.
The erroneous thinking that once we admit the wrong, all consequences will be wiped away is far from the truth. Yes, we are forgiven, and then grace steps in and gives us the strength to endure the consequences of our actions.
If you wreck your car while driving drunk, but are remorseful and promise never to drive drunk again, you still have a wrecked car. But now you’re going to have to figure out how to get around with no wheels. Consequences of wrongs have costs. The drunk driver was “Sowing to the flesh.”
Grace does not take away the consequences of sin, and that brings us to David.
When Nathan was speaking to David from God, he said, “I will cause trouble from your own family. I will cause your own family to rebel against you.” Had David been forgiven, yes, but his troubles were just beginning. David’s family becomes “Dysfunctional.”
When Nathan told David in 2 Samuel 12:11 to “Behold, I will raise up evil against you from your own house and that he will take his own wives before your eyes and give them to your companion,” God was talking about David’s own son.
That’s exactly what happened years later. His own son, Absalom, cohabited with some of David’s wives on the roof of the palace for all Israel to see (2 Samuel 16:21, 22).
Where did David first fall into sin? On his own roof when he looked down and saw Bathsheba bathing.
Then after Bathsheba had David’s child, the child dies.
Then later on, another one of David’s sons rapes his half-sister, Tamar. Amnon was attracted to Tamar, which was the blood sister of Absalom. With the help of a friend, Amnon pretends to be sick. He lures her into his bedchamber and rapes her. Tamar then tells Absalom what Amnon has done.
Now Absalom goes without saying anything for two years, but hates Amon. (2 Samuel 13:20, 22) Lust has led to rape, rape has led to hatred, and hatred leads to murder. Where was David all this time? The only thing we can find in scripture of what David’s response to this rape by his son is; Now when King David heard of all these matters, he was very angry (2 Samuel 13:21).
Years have gone by since David slept with Bathsheba and had her husband murdered, but he is still reaping the consequences of all these wives and the children they bore him.
You would have to have been very passive to not know that major trouble was brewing with the two sons that had not spoken to each other in two years.
All this time, Absalom is devising a plot to kill Amnon, and he succeeds (2 Samuel 13:28-30).
Absalom murders Amnon and then flees to Geshur. That is where his grandfather lived, his mother’s father, who was king of Geshur.
Then scripture tells us in 2 Samuel 14:28, Absalom lived there and did not see David the entire time. But at some point, Absalom worms his way back to David and into the king’s and the people’s heart.
Absalom sits at the city gates and when people come to see David with a grievance, Absalom intercepts them. He wins them over by telling them bad things about his father so that they agree with him to overthrow David’s throne!
2 Samuel 15:14 – So David said to all his servants who were with him at Jerusalem, “Arise, and let us flee; or else we shall not escape from Absalom. Make haste to depart, least he overtake us suddenly and bring disaster upon us, and strike the city with the edge of the sword.”
Is this the same David that killed Goliath with no fear? David leaves the palace with everyone but 10 concubines, to keep the house. After David flees to the Mount of Olives is when Absalom pitches a tent on the roof of the palace and takes David’s concubines (2 Samuel 16:22).
In Chapter 18, we see Absalom raging a battle against David’s servants. Then starting in verse 9, scripture describes Absalom riding on a mule and the mule went under a tree, but Absalom’s head (hair) gets caught and the mule walks off. Absalom was left hanging and died. Even though Absalom had done these despicable things, David was filled with anguish, when he learned that Absalom was dead.
The Bible says that David was a man after God’s own heart, but what happened? Down through the years of over indulging in wives and children being born, parental neglect, abusive behavior that was never disciplined, unresolved conflicts arose and passivity took place. The consequences of years ago actions by David had come home to roost.