Verse 1 – Therefore be followers of God as dear children.
What a simple rule. Contention and strife could be avoided if we just treated others as God treats us, especially your spouse.
Verse 2 – And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.
As Christians we are to show the same love for others as Christ showed us. The offering and sacrifice that Christ gave to us, was like a grateful pleasant smell of incense to God, it was acceptable to Him.
Verse 3 – But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is not fitting for saints;
Verse 4 – neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.
Obscene or indecent conversation is not talk that should come out of a Christian’s mouth.
Verse 5 – For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
In any given church, there are two people, sitting there, who live together, not legally married, and yet still believe that it’s fine with God, because they love each other. This is called “fornication,” sex outside of marriage. What makes people think that God has to adapt to our life-style? Paul is very clear about who will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Verse 6 – Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.
Don’t let anyone tell you that because “times have changed,” that God accepts these life-styles. God has not changed!
Verse 7 – Therefore do not be partakers with them.
Don’t stand in agreement with those who are disobedient. As children of light, our actions and behavior should reflect our faith. Our lives should reflect God’s goodness.
verse 8 – For you were once in darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light
Verse 9 – (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth),
Verse 10 – proving what is acceptable to the Lord.
Verse 11 – and have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.
Verse 12 – For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret.
When a person listens to the things that are of darkness and evil, the imagination starts to roll. You get images of what’s being said. Paul says, these things are not to even be spoken of in order to save us from thinking about them.
Walk As Children of Light
Verse 13 – But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light.
When truth and light is shown on an object or subject or practice, it is exposed for what it truly is. God needs Christians who will take a stand against evil and what is right.
Verse 14 – Therefore He says: “Awake, you who sleep, arise from the dead, and Christ will give you light.”
Verse 15 – See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise,
Verse 16 – redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
These words provide a solemn warning that Christians should be wise and careful in all things, including our use of time. Make sure your time is spent doing good, not evil.
Verse 17 – Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.
So what is the will for a Christians life? His will is for us all to have an abundant life in Him. All through Scripture, God’s will is exposed. The more you read His Word and pray, the closer you come to Him: the closer you are to Christ the more revelation you will receive for your life; the more revelation you have the more answers you will have to your prayers. If you try something and it doesn’t work out, submit your actions in the direction the Spirit leads.
Be Filled With the Spirit
Verse 18 – And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit,
Getting drunk is associated with the old way of life. Since there is always a danger of becoming intoxicated by drinking wine, beer, or any other alcohol, Paul says don’t do it. Some Christians want to argue about this, but all intoxication in Scripture is prohibited, no matter what means it is produced. It is a temporary high that can cause depression or tension or much worse. Is any Christian made a better Christian by drinking alcohol? NO! Be ye filled with the Spirit!
Verse 19 – speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord,
Verse 20 – giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,
Verse 21 – submitting to one another in the fear of God.
Christians are supposed to be joyful and thankful to God in everything. Submitting to one another does not mean you become a doormat for someone. It means we submit to the will of the Father and we follow Christ’s example in conduct and how we treat others. Your behavior will be the opposite of rudeness and having to always be in control.
Wives Submit to Your Husbands
Verse 22 – Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to he Lord.
Here again, this does not mean the wife becomes a doormat for her husband’s abuse. This simply means, God has placed the man as the head of the household that regulates the family. However, if the husband is truly following Christ, then husband and wife will complement each other. But the husband is to have authority over the wife. And I might add, this does not include what is contrary to God’s law.
Verse 23 – For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
“He is Savior of the body,” the church. Christ gave Himself to save His body, the church, as He practiced self-denial and made it and object of intense solicitude to preserve the church, so ought not the husband manifest a similar solicitude to make his wife happy, and to save her from want, affliction, and pain? The husband ought to regard himself as protector, provide for her needs and comfort her in trials, even as Christ does the church.
Verse 24 – Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands: Love Your Wives
verse 25 – Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it,
Husbands are to make the love which Christ had for the church the model to follow.
Verse 26 – that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Verse 27 – that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such things, but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Verse 28 – So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
A husband is not going to know how to love his wife unless he reads his Bible and finds out how much Christ loves the church, His body, His bride! This needs to be taught more in the churches today, and maybe we wont’ have so many divorces among the Christians!
Verse 29 – For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
Verse 30 – For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.
Keep in mind, Paul is still talking about how a husband is to cherish his wife, and then explains how Christ nourishes and cherishes the church as an example.
Verse 31 – “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Nowhere did I read that the “mother-in-law” rules the husband’s household.
Verse 32 – This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Paul appealed to Genesis 2:24, which is God’s initial statement in the Scriptures regarding marriage. The marriage commitment takes precedence over every other human relationship. And in case there is anyone confused, it is between a man and woman!
Verse 33 – Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
It is the duty of every man to love his wife as he does himself. The question every man should ask himself before he marries is, “Will I love my wife as Christ loves the church?” If they can’t, then they shouldn’t get married.
And the wife should show her husband respect as the head of the family. The problem usually comes when the one or both of these golden rules are not applied!