Proverbs 18:21 – Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
The very words we speak will produce life or death in a situation. We do what we do because of the words we say. Words affect our lives more than some people know.
Proverbs is a book that has three major themes: money, morals, and our mouth. Proverbs 6:16 – These six things the LORD hates, yes, seven are an abomination to Him: A proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil, (Verse 19) a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren. (Three out of seven have to do with the tongue.)
Proverbs 12:22 – Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, but those who deal truthfully are His delight. The Hebrew word “abomination” means “detestable.” It comes from the word “idolatry.” So, God is saying, these seven things are idolatrous to the LORD. This is like leaving the throne of God and worshiping at the throne of Satan.
When a person lies, they leave the throne of truth and they go to the throne of lies. Lying is the opposite of God’s nature. He doesn’t just speak truth, He is Truth! Lying can be a huge stronghold in a person’s life. Strongholds are habits that we can’t break on our own. It’s what a person will do over and over again.
Breaking a stronghold will come when the person becomes accountable and correctable! Have you ever met someone that can’t be corrected? Their response will show you whether or not they are correctable when they are confronted.
Sowing discord – Proverbs 6:12 – A worthless person, a wicked man, walks with a perverse mouth; (Verse 13) He winks with his eyes, he shuffles his feet, he points with his fingers; (Verse 14) Perversity is in his heart, he devises evil continually, he sows discord. (Verse 15) Therefore his calamity shall come suddenly; suddenly he shall be broken without remedy. People who will sow discord, will reap calamity. When a person speaks discord, they will reap disharmony and dis-unity in their lives.
Gossiping – Spreading intimate or private rumors or facts. We think gossip is just spreading rumors. That is part, but even if it’s a fact, if its intimate or private, we shouldn’t be talking about it. Doesn’t matter whether true or not, it’s still gossip. Proverbs 20:19 – He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips.
2 Corinthians 12:20 – For I fear lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I wish, and that I shall be found by you such as you do not wish; lest there be contentions , jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, backbiting, whisperings, conceits, tumults (uproars);
Gossip is disguised in the church like: “I’m going to tell you something so that you can pray for them.” Here is the problem with that statement. The person who says that, is doing more talking, by telling the secret than praying for the situation that was told to them in private.
Slander – This is a false, malicious, statement or report about someone. We do this all the time because we pass on what we’ve heard when we don’t have personal knowledge that they are factually true. If you were not there and involved in that conversation, its slander. Look how deadly slander is: Psalm 140:11 – Let not a slander be established in the earth; let evil hunt the violent man to overthrow him. Proverbs 10:18 – Whoever hides hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander is a fool.
1 Corinthians 5:11 – But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother (one that calls them-self a Christian.), who is a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner – not even to eat with such a person.
Tale-bearing – revealing secrets or breaking confidence. Proverbs 11:13 – A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit, conceals a matter. The body of Christ, should be the safest place for Christians to reveal something personal about their life.
This is why this is so important: We confess our sins and faults to God, so that we can be forgiven; we confess our sins and faults to one another , so that we might be “healed!” This is according to James 5:16.
My question is this: Why are there so many in the church that are not healed, whether physically or emotionally? It is because they have told people in the body personal things before and it got spread all over the church. People don’t tell others personal things anymore because people run their mouths. That should not be like that. When we know something about someone, its power. Character, is having power and using it wisely. Don’t tell others peoples secrets.
Cursing – Romans 3:13, 14 – “Their throat is an open tomb; with their tongues they have practiced deceit.”; “The poison of asps is under their lips”; (Verse 14) “Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness.”
Most of the time, when we are around someone that curses, we will find and hear that they are a “bitter” person. When people curse, they are cursing, not blessing. We as Christians are to bless, not curse.
In other words: When someone curses they are speaking a curse. The word “damn” comes from the word “damnation,” which means condemnation or eternal damnation. So, why would we ever “damn” someone? If anyone has a problem in this area, read this: Psalm 109:17, 18 – As he loved cursing, so let it come to him; as he did not delight in blessing, so let it be far from him. (Verse 18) As he clothed himself with cursing as with his garment, so let it enter his body like water, and like oil into his bones.
Water and oil don’t mix. Blessing and cursing don’t mix either, coming out of the same mouth. The Bible says right there that a person who curses is not blessed! Those who curse, the curse will come on them-self, and blessing will be far from them.
Blasphemy – to use God’s name in a unsacred or self-serving way. Exodus 20:7 – “You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.”
There are two ways someone can take the LORD’S name in vain: one to use God’s name as a “curse word”; two, to use God’s name in a vain way, a self-serving way. Believers do this all the time by telling others, “God told me this…!” Jeremiah said, “Don’t say the LORD said, when the LORD has not said!” (Jeremiah 23:21) Don’t use God’s name to manipulate or get your own way.
Filthy language – if cursing covers “damning” and using God’s name in vain, filthy language covers the rest of the bad words. Colossians 3:8 – But now you must also put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy filthy language out of your mouth.
When filthy language comes out of a person’s mouth, its because it’s in their heart. Filthy language stirs up lust in the heart, if someone has a problem with lust. Don’t listen to it. Walk away from filthy language because if you don’t, you’ll soon find yourself talking like that. Christian men need to be respectable and let people know they are not going to listen to that kind of talk.
Contentious speech – hurtful, hateful, disagreeable, argumentative. Proverbs 21:9 – It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman. Proverbs 26:21 – As charcoal is to burning coals, and wood to fire, so is a contentious man to kindle strife.
There are people that just love to argue about everything. What they are actually doing, is stirring up a contentious spirit. People don’t like to be around others who are always fussing and starting arguments. They always have to win the disagreement and have the last word.
Unbelief – this is a sin that we commit with our mouth. Remember, if it’s in your heart, it will come out of your mouth. Negative words are words of unbelief.
Hebrews 3:12 – Beware, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief in departing from the living God; (Verse 13) but exhort one another daily, while it is called “Today,” lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.
As Christians, we are to speak words that build up, not tear down. Remember the ten spies that gave the negative report? The Bible called their negative report, unbelief! Two gave a positive report, Joshua and Caleb, and the Bible called that “Faith!”
Arguing and negative words never bears good fruit. This doesn’t mean that we can’t ever say that something is wrong with something or a situation. It just means use common sense and don’t look for an argument over petty stuff. Faith is not denying the facts, faith is simply stating the truth, according to God’s Word. Faith is not denying that the mountain is there, it’s seeing the mountain move by God. We look at the situation, but our God’s bigger.
Our “Mouth” has to line up with His Word. And the only way God can bless us is for us to get our mouths saying what He says in His Word.
Watch what you say; don’t ever forget whom you represent as a Christian; and remember words matter!